The quintessential or the essence of an abuser in its purest and most concentrated form cannot be unequivocally defined since the nature of this beast of burden is uniquely unpredictable. The spectrum can range from an unsuspicious lover to a married couple showing outward displays of affection. On the outside, everything appears normal until that fated day when the atmospheric change occurs and the definition of what seemed “normal” is disintegrated with questions and wonderment of how could “this” have happened. Domestic abuse appears to be a “buzz word” and progressively, it too will get clearer social and legal definition. It is particularly unimaginable that people who have attained from minimal to extraordinary visibility behave badly and still return to their field of professional concern seemingly without their punishment fitting their crime. As positive strides in the right direction are created to isolate a definition of fair and equitable punishment, perhaps that would diminish the overwhelming and insurmountable number of domestic abuse occurrences. While the journey toward the solution to domestic abuse is not one that can be so easily dispensed from a pill bottle as the answer unfortunately is much deeper than “take two pills and call me in the morning.” Everyone needs to take the time to consider life beyond the fog of despair. Th e journey of a thousand miles begins with the fi rst step. It is time to take your fi rst step. I did. Was it easy? No. Was it worth it? Yes!